We’ve all talked to that douche who flaunts his/her “impressive” vocabulary. It’s annoying! When I have a conversation, yes I want to learn something, but I’d prefer not to feel stupid in the process. And let’s be honest: nobody likes a show off. Dancing is the same. I’d much rather watch a couple who’s having fun together than a couple who’s trying to put on a show in the middle of a dance club.
When I’m dancing with a guy, I don’t want him to throw his highfalutin moves at me non-stop. I want to have a nice conversation: comfortable hello, (a good basic) how are you, (Cross Body Lead) maybe a joke here or there, (CBL w/inside or outside turn) and then maybe they can teach me my new thing for that day (the combo they just learned in class). I don’t want to be bombarded with interesting/useless fact (uber combo #16) after useless fact (uber combo #36). It’s like dancing with Cliff Clavin (for those of you who don’t know that reference, you’re too young to get this anyway;).
Now, I will confess, I personally hate to mingle. No one likes having the same, trite conversation over and over. So when I am forced to do it, I like to keep it interesting and ask questions the other person may not always get. Social dancing is the same. You are mingling with your body (though it’s not as kinky as it sounds – well, with Salsa it can be;). Try to keep it lively. Don’t do the same rote routine with each dance partner. Or for my ladies reading this, don’t become a robotic follow who just goes through the motions. (That’s actually sage advice for anyone on any topic).
I’m not saying you should try to impress anyone. By now, we should all know the difference between putting our best foot forward versus shoving our newly polished toenails in someone’s face. All I’m saying is you should feel different than anyone else in the room because you are different from everyone else in the room. Be yourself! It’s going to be good enough.
I think Billy Joel said it best in “Just the Way You Are”. “I don’t want clever conversation. I never want to work that hard. I just want someone that I can talk to. I want you just the way you are.” Thanks Bill. I’ll see you on the hardwood:)