Someone informed me a great instructor once told him, "make a distinction between dancing and making love standing up". I agree, which is why I don't like Reggeaton. It's bumping and grinding at its max. Blech!
However, I also think, if you love the person you're dancing with - people should be able to tell. Whether it's your smile, your eye contact, your slightly sexier styling, anything - as long as it's something. You want to avoid going into auto pilot when you dance.
This can be especially tricky at the end of the night when your feet are getting tired... along with the rest of your body. You start thinking about all the things you have to do the next day and how you really should be getting home, but there are still some names on your dance card. How to marry the two?
I try to find joy in the little things. A certain partner's relaxed style, another partner's sheer joy while dancing, or maybe just their smile is enough to make it worth it. It's hard sometimes. I get it.
What I'll offer besides looking for the little things, is this: if you can't find joy because you're starting to get dizzy you're so tired - go home. Tell your dance card peeps you'll take a rain check. I'm sure they won't be offended because they've read my earlier blog;)
And on that note of being really tired, I'm going to keep this entry super short. Be intimate with your special someone if you have one. If people don't want to see it, they don't have to watch. I'd love to say, "be classy" or "some things are meant to be private". The problem there is, where's the line? To some, a sexy look is too personal. To others, close body contact is uncalled for. Worrying about what others think is a slippery slope indeed.
Bottom line - I'm not going to let other people's perception dictate how I dance. You're never going to please everyone. Work on pleasing your partner for this dance. I will "dance like no one is watching" - especially with my husband on our one date night a month!
See you on the hardwood!:)
Allison loves to write almost as much as she loves to dance, so no one had to twist her arm to get her to write about dancing!