My Bad!

1/24/2013 3 Comments

My Bad!

    I have done my husband a great disservice. I have been critical on the dance floor instead of accepting. And in my very vows to that man, I said I would accept, not expect. What can I say - the dance instructor in me dies hard. May this serve as my apology.
    As many of you witnessed, last Thursday we got a rare Dance Night Out. I was absolutely giddy with anticipation to dance with the man I love most in this world! My knee didn't protest, my energy was palpable, and the dance instructor in me finally shut the heck up! The only thing that faltered was my husband's desire to dance with me. He kept trying to get off the floor after each song. When I finally asked him why, he confessed: he feared I was bored. Bored?! Dancing Salsa with (no offense to any of my readers) the sexiest man on the dance floor!? How is that even possible? It's not! I wasn't bored for a single minute.
    I told him as much, but he didn't believe me. He thought I must be tired of the same 13 moves - anyone who read my blog last week knows I had my feet full! I reassured him I was having a great time. He still
didn't buy it.  I told him I didn't need lots of combinations - I'd rather be led well. I've told him
(and many other students) this very thing multiple times. Yet guys insist the woman needs lots of moves to impress her/keep her interested.
    Guys! The dances I remember for a lifetime aren't the fancy ones where I have to work my ass off! Go back and read my blogs! The truth... the sexiness... the sensuality... it's in the good leads. It's never in the fancy combos. Are those fun when lead correctly? Yes. Will I remember them in a month, a week, or even the next day? Nope.  Will I remember how it felt dancing with you? You better believe it.
    So, to my dearest love, I say this: I'm sorry if I ever gave you the impression you weren't enough for me. You are far more than I deserve. I fell in love with you on the dance floor while you were learning the basics.  And if basics are all we ever dance - I will love you all the more - as long as you guide me gently through them.
    See you on the hardwood:)

3 Comments

Liz

1/24/2013 11:24:17 pm

Not to mention, some of us are intimidated to dance with your husband, because he knows tons of moves and is an extremely graceful dancer. To his credit, he has an uncanny ability of making his follow feel appreciated. Anyway, it was nice to see you two dancing together, not just parenting!

Cheryl

1/25/2013 01:04:11 pm

I've danced 3 plus minute songs with your husband when all he knew was cross body lead and still remember it to this day as a fun time!

In all honesty, I don't remember what moves or how many moves I'm doing. It's like being a passenger in a car... you don't remember most of the telephone poles because you're enjoying the conversation (but you're glad the driver pays attention!) :) We appreciate it guys but really, give yourselves a break!

Typhoon

1/26/2013 03:14:58 pm

Women...we love you. We want to thrill you. We want to make every dance experience you have with us a wonderful, sensational, toe-tingling rollercoaster ride of a dance that becomes your "momentary release from the existential terrors of existence"...and makes you laugh.

But the male mind at times can be very linear in its rationale. We hear you saying things like " _________ (insert "HIS" name here, and YOU know who I'm talking about!) is a phenomenal dancer, he led me in some really fun patterns, I want to dance with him again!"

For guys, the thought process usually goes something like this..." a) i want to dance with women; b) women like men who lead fun patterns; c) the more patterns I learn, the more fun ones I can lead; d) the more patterns I lead, I'm more likely to I am to stumble upon the one's that make her smile/laugh/knees weak; e) i've been dancing salsa for one month now, I'm ready for the advanced class!

Obviously I'm being facetious, but the above isn't far from the truth. No guy in his right mind believes that a woman would rather dance a perfectly-led salsa basic for 4 minutes...rather than letting him throw in a couple of turns and something approaching a cross-body lead even if the lead was mediocre at best!

We all want to feel like we're improving. As the saying goes, "If you're not getting better, you're getting worse." Improving in relation to dance can mean better techniques or more patterns, and every person has to find that balance between those two that work for them. The only real tragedy is to do neither.

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